Do you remember when Rose told Jack to draw her like one of his French girls, and your parents covered your eyes and all of a sudden the boat was sinking and Jack was dying? That confusion summarizes the same feeling I have about nudes today all I can think is “well that escalated quickly.”
Before you read on you should know this post will contain some choice words and opinions that aren’t suitable for everyone, that’s life… Let’s move on.
If you scroll through any social media platform you’ll find memes about sending nudes and they vary from “send nudes” written in cheerios to responding to the request with lipsticks. While these are all comedic and I’ve 100% sent these memes to friends and laughed, I’m confused by the etiquette of sending and receiving nudes.
So is there an appropriate time and place to send nude? Is it even safe to do it with the expanding technologies and the idea of mistrust and permanent humiliation if the wrong pictures were put into the wrong hands? With so many questions I took to my social media to ask people what their thoughts on nudes were.
The responses varied, but the most popular answer from both sexes was that nudes are appropriate to send to a significant other whether it is for long distance purposes or just to send them something for later this was the most popular answer.
My follow up to that is what happens after the messy break up, can you both be adults and get rid of those photos like everything else you burned from the relationship, or is your ex just going to continue to use those photos for their own personal pleasure after you’re gone. YIKES
Another common answer came from the male responses were like that tacky tip jar at the diner’s front counter that reads ‘Never expected, always appreciated’. So if a girl sent them a nude unexpectedly they were grateful, whether it be someone they just met or a significant other or whatever we decided that in between relationship status was called…
So then what about the women who received the unexpected, were they still appreciated?
I should make note that what came as a shock to me was that no one really said “absolutely no, nudes are gross and off limits.”
Instead, for the majority of women who responded, nudes and tip jars did not have same rules. They agreed that nudes were appreciated when they asked for them or if it was an even exchange and expected, but unsolicited dick pics? HARD PASS.
By the way, this is one of the many double standards in life… please don’t make this the hill you want to die on.
So why? Why are men still sending us pictures of their junk that doesn’t even appeal to most women in person? No one goes out looking for a penis to stare at, so I most certainly do not need it popping up on my phone when I’m alone, with friends or at work, which are all scenarios in which I have received the unrequested, unappealing picture of some man-child’s junk on my phone.
PAUSE, STORY TIME
Like most women I’ve talked to for this blog post, I have received an unsolicited dick picture, meaning some guy on the other end thought to himself ‘we’re talking about how badly she could go for a nap right now, I bet she wants my dick.’ No. The answer is no. The answer will always be no. Since, I like to believe I am a pretty open book what makes you think that all of a sudden I want to use the code word ‘NAP’ for dick pics. BY THE WAY, This is a very dangerous word to use because I actually take naps daily, my roommates can confirm this.
So here I am, middle of the day out in public and there appears a man’s junk on my phone. I’m distraught, disgusted and a little concerned about what’s going on in this guy’s head. Honey, I’m at work… do you want a bunch of middle-aged men checking out what you have? Or don’t…
While I’m not attempting to be a literal boner killer because I understand it’s all fun and games the fact here is that I DIDN’T ASK FOR IT. So just stop. Thanks.
Nudes seem to be here to stay and with the added bonus of so many apps that allow people to send and receive quick pics and store them secretly (yes, there’s an app for hiding what you don’t want found). Nudes to most seem to be a ‘look good, feel good’ thing for some people and to those people I say “GO YOU!” If you feel hot in your birthday suit and feel like you can share that with someone, then do you booboo.
As for myself? Nah. I don’t want to send them and I definitely don’t need to receive them, so keep your eggplant emoji to in your pants please.